Posted by: museme on December 03, 2008

k, so this is my first year of college and I'm at place in my life where im asking myself, who am I, what do I really like doing, instead of being pressured into doing activities I don't even like. I don't want ot get sucked into that again, any suggestion on how to just be myself, how do i find myself, i feel like there is just so much crud to get out of the way

Posted by: walzy22 on December 07, 2008

Hey museme, i posted your question on my blog to get some experience with your question, i thought this was a good reply. As for self discovery, I think it is a life-long event. It seems like I am always learning more and more about myself. I think that you will never completely know who you are until you reach the end of the journey. And I don’t plan for my journey to end for many MANY more years! Who you are changes as the years go by. I can say that at 31 I am not the same person I was at 21 or even 27. Who I am changes as I learn more and experience more. Who you are evolves. I don’t search for who I am anymore. Who I am is revealed to me as I go along. All of this isn’t to say that we don’t have to be open to change. Change is part of the evolution! I also try not to label myself because those labels are bound to change. I am talking about labels that are specific like: democrat, republican, Baptist, radical, tree-hugger! I am who I am and it is constantly in flux. The one label that I happily accept it Mom. I will now and forever be a mom and I am okay with that! :)

Posted by: trinity_07 on December 10, 2008

Yeah it gets hard sometimes that we end up asking the questions to ourselves. I think everyone goes through the same stages of learning, discovering and accepting. I think safest way to know you're in the right path to knowing yourself is when you do things and that you are fine with whatever results they give you. Like what walzy had mentioned in his post, you don't get to know yourself in a blink of an eye. There will be people, things and experiences that will reveal every inch of your personality as you go along your journey. You will never be able to know yourself with just looking here or listening there. It's already within you and you do not really need to find it. What you need to think about is how are you going to get that person out of yourself. Just keep living and dealing with things, people and situations given to you. You'll find which of them are okay and not with you. That should be a good start to knowing how you are and who you are each day. Just live your life. Remember that in doing so, you are always one day, one step and one moment away from discovering yourself.